By Mary Aunty.
Popu was a humble, simple, compassionate and kind boy. He was the most intelligent and talented of all my nephews. As a child he was well-dressed, well behaved and delightful. He was a keen, silent observer of what was going on around him, and spoke only when he needed to. He was wise beyond his age and loved his family, friends and relatives.
Popu made the family proud from a very young age. He conducted and participated in Quiz programs and Debates, and won numerous trophies and medals. He also won wonderful gifts including a Computer, at a time when computers were a luxury at homes. Popu scored high grades and was a well behaved student. He was an example for both my sons, Pinchoo and Sonu, to follow.
After college when he went on to Goa for work, Popu and I had been in contact through calls and messages. We even discussed about him coming over to Canada, but he said he was happy with his work, and will let me know if he ever planned to cross the ocean. During early 2020, when I told him about my plans to visit Kerala, he assured me he would also come over, but on one condition - that is, I should not talk about him getting married. He said he was not yet ready or sure of marriage; and in reply I assured him that I would not talk about it at all.
When I told Popu that we were attending Jonu's Marriage and have booked our tickets, he was very happy that we were getting to meet with each other after many years! During that call which lasted about an hour we spoke about a lot of things including how he and his friends made arrangements for Jonu's registered marriage; and the Easter get together; how loving Priyam and her family are; how he loves all of them, and, above all, how happy he was for Jonu and Mummy. We joked about how some of the event management and photographers behave at marriage events, taking photos by 'thala kuthi marinju' and climbing on trees. His innocent loud laughter is still ringing in my ears. And when I asked him what he wanted me to bring for him, he said, 'aunty just bring me Hershey Kisses chocolates, nothing else'. This was an example of how simple he was.
He was a perfect host at the marriage. Though he is Jonu's older brother, he also took on the additional duties of a father to ensure everything went smoothly. He ensured that all relatives were well taken care of. He picked up and dropped us back on time to airports and stations; and did everything to ensure that we all had a comfortable time. My dear Popu displayed once again how awesome he was. I am so happy that I got to dance with him on the 'jimikki kammal' song. That was the first time we danced together, and I had never imagined that it would be the last. Then next day we hugged and said bye. It was the last time I saw him in person.
We did speak again, in March this year. It was another fun phone conversation. Getting him on the phone was difficult, but once we did get on the call, we had wonderful conversations. We joked, laughed, and spoke about anything under the sun. He had an innocent and positive view on everything. I remember him being excited about Jonu and Priyam's puppy Tintin, and how upset everyone at home was when the other puppy had to return to its home.
Popu, you left us so soon, so suddenly, and we couldn't say 'goodbye'. How I wish we could have spoken a little longer; How I wish we could have danced a few more steps; How I wish I hugged you tighter and longer the day we were leaving.
I know you are now in Heaven, peaceful and smiling. I am consoled with that thought. But my child, the void you left is deep, the pain is piercing. Yet, the memories you left are sweet, which I will forever cherish. I will always Love you my dearest Popu, and will wait to meet you again in Heaven. Your innocent face, voice and laughter will ever live within me. Not saying I miss you L because you live in our hearts.
Rest in Peace in Heaven Popu. Love you eternally!
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